Thanks to the good people of #ProjectAccept for this enlightening article about #herpes. http://tinyurl.com/hjx8qq5 The accurate answer is this:
“Around 75% of Americans carry HSV 1 or HSV 2 somewhere on their body. That virus can (but may not) be transmitted to any surface of someone else’s body, via physical contact. If it does transmit, there’s an ~80% chance that they won’t recognize any symptoms from the infection. However they, too, will retain the virus for life and be contagious.”
What this tells me is that if I engage is sexual activities with other people, I need to be able to tolerate the risk that, well, herpes happens. It happens a lot.