Ever since our BuzzFeed video came out (7 million hits and counting), I’ve received lots of inquiries about becoming a Professional Cuddler. This email was from a viewer who’s concerned that it may do more harm than good. I’ve answered his tough questions and am curious what you think.
Question: How do professional cuddlers deal with clients forming attachments?
Jean: It’s important for the person providing the service to be clear on the boundaries of what’s being offered. I think it’s okay and healing to feel intimacy and attachment.
Question: Why provide this service?
Jean: Some people are starved for touch and simply need to connect in this way. For others, it’s just comforting, soulful and fun. Here’s more info about why this service can be helpful.
Question: Isn’t it healthier for people to form real (non-professional) relationships with people to cuddle with?
Jean: I wholeheartedly encourage people to ask for the touch they need with their friends and family. My free lessons details that. You can sign up for them here: CuddleSanctuary.com.
Question: Following #3, how is it not enabling social dysfunction to provide a professional service for something that people should be able to do socially on their own with friends, partners and family?
Jean: There can be a variety of obstacles preventing people from finding cuddle buddies including this short list:
a. A person who’s traveling for business and has limited time in the town they are in
b. A person dealing with social anxiety or trauma
c. A person with developmental challenges such as Autism or Asperger’s
In the case of a client who is struggling socially, cuddling can have the effect of building confidence and a feeling of esteem and value. it also teaches communication and boundaries. These can build a bridge towards better relating with others. In other words for some clients, these sessions can be a communication training ground.