This weekend, I drove to Big Sur, California for a weekend retreat at Esalen. I soaked in hot mineral baths on a seaside cliff, read, did yoga and met my fellow retreat goers. I fell into a flirty conversation with George from New York. As we sat on the vast green lawn, gazing at the ocean in front of us, I became curious if he was truly available. “Are you married?” I asked. “No.” He was eager to pass the availability test. “Are you in a relationship?” “No,” he answered just as quickly. Then I remembered, I am talking to a man-person. And man-people define things differently than women-people, so I took a stab and asked, “Is there someone in your life that you are dating who would prefer if you were dating only her?” “Yes,” he responded honestly. I laughed out loud – delighted at my own questioning prowess. Now we were getting somewhere. “Does the woman you are dating believe she’s in a monogamous relationship with you?” “No.” As far as I was concerned, the fellow was available. I’m curious if you agree?
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| Wandering the Esalen property, I found two aging flowers. I like their wrinkles. |
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| These flowers glowed nuclear style. |
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| Sexy succulents. |
